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Answer | · Isn't prostitution mostly a choice? A. When prostituted women are asked if they want to leave prostitution, consistently around 90% say they want out immediately but the decision is out of their hands and in the hands of their pimps, their husbands, their landlords, their addictions, their children's bellies. A recent study of street prostitutes in Toronto found that about 90% wanted to leave but could not, and a 5-country study found 92% wanted out of prostitution. If they are there because they cannot leave, they are not choosing to be there.
If prostitution were really a choice it would not be those populations with the least amount of choices available to them far disproportionately pushed into it. If prostitution were a choice there would no billion-dollar black market trade in coerced, tricked, kidnapped and enslaved people known as human trafficking.
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| · Q. Sex is a powerful commodity. A.Tulips were once considered a powerful commodity, which is to say what men place value on is up to men's subjectivity and not a human universal. The same was said about trading black flesh once, and it was proven incorrect. We're not talking about 'commodities to be traded' but human beings. In prostitution it is not sex that is sold, it is power over women. [ Back to Top ]
| · Q. Men will treat prostitutes better if it is legalized This has not borne itself out in legalization trials in Australia, the Netherlands and Germany.
All attempts to lessen the harms of prostitution have failed because
men have not lessened their debasement of female sexuality and
propensity to commit gendered violence in any significant way. There
are plenty of medical records, police records and personal testimonies
to substantiate men's violence towards females in places where
prostitution has been legalized. Where prostitution thrives the value
of women's lives is low and the gendered violence they suffer has not
decreased. In fact, the legalized province of Victoria, Australia has
both the country’s highest domestic violence rates and child
prostitution rates.
In theory it sounds good to say sane, reasonable people should have the
right to sell a kidney for $500 or more if they choose to. But opening
the door to body organ selling would not lead to nearly as many middle
class American white men selling organs as other populations whose
social circumstances can't seriously be said to allow a free, uncoerced
choice, and it would open the door for 'brokers' who exploit poor
people. I'm glad we are willing to sacrifice the theoretical
capitalistic rights of a very few possible body organ sellers for the
greater benefit of preventing widespread exploitation of less
privileged people.
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| · Hasn't prohibition been shown to fail? A. Depends on what you're prohibiting. We as a culture prohibit child porn, and it's true there that prohibition doesn't work, but that doesn't mean the only other option is legalization.
When we stop focusing all attention on whether or not poverty-stricken teenage girls with abusive histories really want to be prostitutes and begin asking why so many men are unbelievably, horrifically violent towards prostituted people then we'll get to the place Sweden is at, the place that stops blaming young females for creating their own rape, torture and captivity and recognizes that without men's demand for bodies to abuse there would be no supply of bodies to abuse.
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| · Prostitution is the world's oldest profession and will always exist. A. Prostitution is not the oldest profession, slave trading is, men selling
or trading female bodies amongst each other for profit. Saying
prostitution is the oldest profession makes it sound like prostituted women have always been cunning initiators
wielding their mighty sexual power over men like powerful
vampiresses of the night. That's the misogynistic lie men have always
wanted promoted because it absolves them of responsibility for what
they do to children and women and makes them look like the victims of
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| · Shouldn't prostitution be legalized and thought of as a normal job? A. There's
no reason to believe there will be a day when being naked won't make
people feel vulnerable and exposed. It's a universal human experience
of being naked to feel more vulnerable than having clothes on (there is
no human society that doesn't have clothing of a sorts), and it is
inherent in having a piece of someone else's body penetrate another
body to feel what thousands of prostitutes interviewed say they feel:
like a human toilet, like they are being raped over and over again.
Contrary
to what pro-prostitution advocates claim, the worst thing prostitutes
face is not social stigma, it is rape, strangulation, beatings,
burnings and other violence from johns and pimps (pimps being the party
johns pay to outsource the violence necessary to keep prostitutes
obedient.)
The Swedish model decriminalizing victims and putting the emphasis for
change on prostitute-using men is the way to go because men should not have a right to sex on
demand and it is the belief they are entitled to sex on demand that fuels prostitution, rape,
street harassment, workplace sex harassment, anti-choice dogma, and
every other gendered ill that makes up what we call 'sexism.'
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| · Why pretend prostitution isn't a part of everyday life? A. I don't see anyone pretending our culture isn't saturated with the selling of female bodies, especially not the social workers and researchers trying to find solutions to the misery. When I hear people talk of legalizing it, I see a whole lot of pretending the misogyny and abuse intrinsic to the act of prostitution can somehow be wished away if only more laws making rape and assault more illegal than they already are get passed. It can't, as Sweden's own decades-long experiment with decriminalized prostitution demonstrated. [ Back to Top ]
| · Q. Don't a lot of women enjoy it? A. There is no research or collected evidence supporting this claim.
When proponents of legalization talk about legitimizing prostitution
they talk a lot about theory and rights and ethics, but they don't let
prostitutes themselves speak what they want. A 5-country study of
prostitutes found 92% wanted help getting out of prostitution
immediately. 100% said they didn't want anyone they loved to ever have
to prostitute their bodies for survival.
In Germany the service
union ver.di offered union membership to Germany's estimated 400,000
sex workers. They would be entitled to health care, legal aid, thirty paid
holiday days a year, a five-day workweek, and Christmas and holiday
bonuses.
Out of 400,000 sex workers, only 100 joined the union. That's .00025% of German sex workers. Women don't want to be prostitutes.
There is no sensible feminist reason to ignore
the 92% of prostitutes who do not consider it work but slavery in favor
of the 8% minority, especially when doing so only affirms the rape
culture that affirms men’s entitlement to use women’s bodies any way they desire, any time they want it.
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| · Q. Do you think prostitutes should be arrested? A. Absolutely not, since I don’t believe being desperately poor and/or abused is a crime. But johns, pimps and other sexual predators need to stop their criminally abusive behaviors and other options, like legalization, have been tried and have failed. Sweden has had great success criminalizing sexual predation while attempting to assist people in getting out of ‘the life’. [ Back to Top ]
| · Q. But people need sex and some have no other way to get it than from prostitutes. A. No one ‘needs’ sex like they need food, water and air, and no one
has the right to purchase access to another person’s reproductive
organs in order to masturbate themselves.
Sex is fun, and it
feels good, and it is widely available to anyone who treats others
respectably with kindness and asks. Buying prostitutes is less about
sexual gratification than power gratification, because in an exchange
of equal partners there is always the risk of disagreement and the need
for compromise. 85% of American johns have regular female sexual
partners and 60% are married men. [ Back to Top ]
| · But you agree porn and stripping aren't prostitution, right? A. Of course they are. If getting paid to perform sex acts is
prostitution, using a camera to record people getting paid to perform
sex acts is recording prostitution. It is comforting for people to
call porn performers 'porn actresses' to distance themselves
emotionally from the truth that they pay a third party for recording of
prostitutes being prostituted, but porn actresses have a lot more in
common with other prostitutes than with other actresses, such as
poverty, a history of child sex abuse and drug addictions.
Strip clubs, porn, Hooters, mail order brides, and other 'sex
work' are the prostitution of female sexuality for male consumption. In
one study, 100% of strippers interviewed said they had been
propositioned as prostitutes by strip club patrons, so if you don't
think strippers are prostitutes please recognize that your opinion
differs greatly from that of men who spend their money to make women
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| · Q. Can’t prostitution be made medically safer with regulations? A. Sometimes more safe is still not safe enough. Unless prostituted women are sterilized they can expect to get pregnant and must have repeated abortions. Neither the option of sterilization nor submission to repeated abortions is acceptable, and humans have not yet figured out a 100% effective method of containing the spread of deadly STDs.
I'm much more concerned about preventing rape, battery, burnings. etc. than I am in wondering how to patch women up after men torture them. When doctors, police, priests, NATO soldiers and refugee working men use their position of power to prey upon vulnerable and traumatized populations, as many prostituted people have reported, regulating prostitution is really about men organizing to provide other men easy access to disease-free bodies and not about the welfare of women's health and well being.
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| · If you try to stop prostitution, won't it just go underground? A. This is extortion. It's assumes that men currently abuse, torture
and rape prostitutes in horribly high numbers and if feminists don't
agree to provide clean bodies for men's sexual self-gratification,
their entertainment, then johns are gonna really beat the living shit
out of prostitutes and it will be feminist's fault they did it.
Basing public policy measures on the extortionist threat of increased
violence in an already very violent environment is no way for a civil
society to operate. Also, legalization has not only not stopped the
violence prostituted people face, it has actually made it harder for
victims to 'prove' they were forced and increased the number of people
involved with the sex industry overall, hence expanding the number of
people affected without stopping the violence.
I am not persuaded that letting men masturbate themselves with a woman's body should be normalized as a
"profession" and good-enough work for poor women based on threats of
worse violence and violations. Prostitutes are already at the bottom of
the
social totem pole, more raped, killed, exploited and reviled than any
group of women. Brothels are rape rooms and the daily systematized
atrocities happening in them right now are compelling enough to take
action stopping them.
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| · Q. What about women like Annie Sprinkle, Nina Hartley, etc. who say they enjoy being prostitutes? A. As with antiwar leaders, many former prostitutes (Andrea Dworkin,
Norma Hotaling, Kelly Holsopple, Carol Smith, Anne Bissell) are
themselves survivors of the commercial sex industry.
That a few paid prostitutes have learned to profit from advocating the
legalization of prostitution does not hold water next to the responses
of the overwhelming number of prostitutes without columns in porn
magazines, book deals, their own websites, nationwide tours and
scheduled appearances on the talk show circuit booked by an agent who
negotiates speaking fees. Some leading "pro-sex work" advocates of legalized prostitution such
as Robyn Few, Norma Jean Almodovar and Margo St. James have been convicted on pimping charges
though they continue to present themselves as common prostitutes and
not bigger players in organizing crimes against prostituted women.
Sex worker rights leader Carol
Leigh, aka Scarlot Harlot, has said herself in a 2004 debate, "95% of my friends
want out of prostitution."
Don’t you think tons of studies on legalization have been done
by all sorts of parties? If the wealthy pimps, pornographers and
governments who want legalization and taxation had solid information
proving that legalization has met its stated goals, why wouldn’t they
spread that information across the Earth? Hugh Hefner would probably
make a centerfold out of such "women like it and it's healthy"
research.
If you know of a piece of quality research where a majority of
prostitutes responded that they enjoyed being sexually used by several
men a day, day after day, please present it to me. I have read a lot
about this and I have never seen any evidence to support that
prostitutes enjoy their job (paid celebrity spokeswomen for the billion
dollar multinational sex industry aside.) [ Back to Top ]
| · Aren't you making personal moral judgements about prostitution and pushing them on others? A. While the inherent intimacy of the nature of sexual acts is often a
part of some peoples belief that sexuality is unique to personal
identity and possibly even sacred, most of what I've seen is research
focused on the harm done to prostituted people. In other words, I'm not
against legalizing prostitution because I'm uncomfortable morally with
selling sex or have questions about my own sexuality, I am against
legalizing prostitution because I have seen how it destroys health,
hope, communities, and many, many lives. [ Back to Top ]
| · Isn't it better to make lots of money as a prostitute than working a minimum wage McJob? A. Pimps ask themselves the same question, "Isn't it better to make
lots of money controlling a prostitute(s) than working a minimum wage
McJob?"
Prostitution is not work like any other forms of employment, which is why I have come to
see it as the Swedish do, as institutionalized sexual oppression
instead of work. There is no other job where a person is expected to
have their bodies penetrated repeatedly and exposed to
contagion-carrying human fluids. There is no other "job" where a
13-year-old with zero experience can be sold for 100 times the price
what a 23-year-old with ten years experience is sold. There is no other
job an emaciated homeless person strung out on heroin can do (or,
more accurately, have done to them) as they're lying limp on the floor.
What has happened in the Netherlands is johns seek out the
most dejected and desperate women (and children) to sexually prey on
because their powerlessness and addictions make them more willing to do
violent, unsafe acts of prostitution for less money. The relatively
small number of Dutch-born sex workers complain of being undercut by
drug addicted and severely abused women and "prosti-tots" (pimp joke)
offering sex for their next fix.
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| · Men prostitute too so it's not just about women. A. Prisons develop systems of prostitution (not surprising since prostitution is big $$$ among gang members not in jail), and there is a specific loss of power, prestige, self-determination and spirit among men who are pimped and tricked. Men who are prostituted in prisons are treated much differently than the men who pay to rape them, and no one is treated better than the pimps. [ Back to Top ]
| · Q. Legalizing prostitution is part of a wider campaign of sexual liberation A. Liberation for who is the underlying question. What is it about sex and women that lowers a woman's perceived cultural value if she has sex even without money or forcibly as in cases of rape? Changing the cultural connection that makes women engaging in sex (paid for, raped, or consensual) worth-less, low class sluts needs to be changed before legalization can be honestly considered.
There is the unfortunate neoliberal misconception that free markets are the best kind, that the economic marketplace can regulate itself through the cause and effects of competition, supply and demand. Ask yourself if Wal-mart is really the world's largest private employer because they are truly better than other companies. In light of the evident failures of free marketism to produce diverse, consumer-driven and fair business practices, how well should the free marketplace of ideas fare under the same laissez faire system? Why wouldn't we expect the same opportunistic consolidations, money equals the right to speech, more powerful exploiting the less powerful?
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| · Why can't you see johns/tricks who pay for prostitutes as just customers of sexual service? A. The man with the money has all the power, not the moneyless prostitute. It's impossible to say men spend their money to create the exact sexee scenario they desire and this means prostitutes have the power to dictate what will happen, how far it will go, and all other aspects of the fantasy the customer is paying for. Not only is it impossible for the money-holding man to transfer his inherent greater power in a fantasy of his own making, it is emphatically not what prostitutes say happens. Johns are the demand that keeps the prostituted bodies moving, and the economic model is "demand creates supply."
Johns do not go out of their way to forcibly abduct women, get them hooked on drugs, take total control of their lives, or in any other way trap them in the sex trade because they don't have to. The pimps do it for them. They don't trap their prey, they are like vultures who prey on the down and out, who pay specifically for their victims to be down and out. Johns have sex with someone who is being held captive because of the expectation (an expectation rooted in reality) that they will pay good money for it, then they say it is not their fault because they weren't the one holding them down.
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